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[the_wanlorn]

 
What do you think is "The Nice Guy Phenomenon"?
What do you think causes "The Nice Guy Phenomenon"?
 

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[taranhero.livejournal.com]

I assume you're talking about the Ladder Theory/"Nice Guys Finish Last" rule of dating? I almost fell for this once, and it's not that hard to understand.

Basically, especially in a highschool-type setting, some people don't see very much in the way of romantic endeavors, partly because they are too shy to seek them, and partly because they are not especially noticeable in a crowd. However, they tend to see their predicament from an incorrect angle -- the premier "Ladder Theory" website (http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html) tends to send you astray, thinking that you need to be an outlaw biker or rich man (http://www.intellectualwhores.com/construction.html) in order to get the girl. Thus, the "nice guy" either tries to become one of these without fixing the real issue, or sits around whining about how he can't get girls over the captain of the football team / guy in school with a motorbike / whatever. Either way, all this can do for you is make you either more bitter about your situation, or make you develop a fake persona, neither of which will get you anywhere good.

[sarek007.livejournal.com]

the nice guy phenomenon is the tendency for girls to fall for assholes and then whine to their nice male friends about what assholes they are dating and complain plaintively "why cant i ever find a nice guy like YOU!?!"

it's caused partially because nice guys dont tend to be as forward when approaching women. Also the brashness of the asshole is often seen as innate self confidence, which is attractive even when the rest of his personality is not.

[emiweebee.livejournal.com]

...what's "The Nice Guy Phenomenon"?